On the Oprah Winfrey show, Teri Hatcher, Cybill Shepherd and Linda Evans joined Oprah for a discussion in 2010 about aging and beauty. Teri Hatcher had photographed herself makeup and Botox free and posted the images on Facebook to get women thinking about aging in broader terms than just wrinkles and sagging.
Cybill Shepherd shared how she hadn’t come to terms with her own aging until she reached 60. At that point she realized that you have to have more depth than just appearance and learn to love yourself again as a mature woman. Linda Evans added, “Loving yourself doesn’t mean having a massage or getting your hair done. It means truly knowing your values.”
Knowing your values is a concept that both men and women should embrace with age. Those values will help you decide how you want to spend your time during retirement:
- doing (ie. volunteer, work, a little of both, something new?)
- living (ie. near children, in a warm client, on a farm?)
- relating (ie. making new friends, reconnecting with those with whom you lost touch)
- learning (ie. college, cooking, art, faith)
The list can go on but it is helpful to reflect on what is most important to you and talk about those values with your partner and family.
What do you value most in life? How do you want to make an impact as an older adult?